Q: Me and my girlfriend have been together for 11 years. We love each other and the sex is good, but starting to get a bit boring. How to I spice things up?
A: Talk! Make a nice dinner for her and tell her that you love her. Tell her how good your sex life is, and that you’ve been thinking of trying some new things. Ask her if she has any ideas or fantasies. Make sure that you know what you would like to try so that you can make a mental list together and prepare for it. This can be fun and sexy! Maybe you need to do some naughty shopping? Great!
It’s important that she feels it’s fun and exciting for the both of you, and that you’re not criticizing her. Not sure what you want? A hotel night can create new excitement. Book a weekend away! Try role-playing, watching porn together, an erotic massage or why not tell her “tonight we’ll see how many orgasms I can give you darling, 1, 2, 3, go!”