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A: Oh yes, get some kink going girl!

Start by telling him about your fantasies, introduce them gently and slowly. Perhaps your partner also has fantasies that he would like to try with you. There is a ton of porn on the subject if you’re into watching that together, but personally, I would advise against turning to porn in order to learn about how something is done. The films show a small part of what BDSM can be to you, and I feel you should start by exploring the things you fantasize about. BDSM is a combination of bondage and discipline (B & D), dominance and submission (D & S), as well as sadism and masochism (S & M).

Based on what you want to explore there are so many products and starters kits out there. You will find ways to satisfy your every desire and create some new ones along the way. 

A good way to start is with a blindfold. Removing one sense during foreplay and sex makes you concentrate more on the others, which can be very exciting and a huge turn on. Playing with the senses in other ways such as cold and heat can also be interesting. Keep an ice cube in your mouth when kissing your partner’s body. Use candles that melt and turn into massage oil. Pain levels vary from person to person and also will vary in different situations so be prepared to change the dial in both directions. Whips are also a good toy for pain exploration. There are many variations on whips and restrictors such as handcuffs; bring your partner to choose the ones that feel best for you to begin with – if you like it, you can always up the level to hardcore.