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“You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how.”

Gone With the Wind (1939)

Every woman has a scent and smell of her own, but as long as the lucky lady you’re about to enjoy is healthy and clean she will taste just normal and fine so stop worrying about that.

In my early years of dating men, I didn’t want them to go down on me. I felt silly just laying there not doing anything and I kept overthinking it like ”how long does this normally take. When should I fake an orgasm to seem normal?” Of course, I had to fake it. If I’m not relaxed I can’t enjoy it and then my thoughts start to wander elsewhere. So you need to make your lady relax by kissing her all over and slowly work your way down to her vagina.

And let it take time! You cannot be in a hurry down there. Trust me, it’s very off-putting to have someone clearly bored or stressed between your legs. You have to enjoy it too!

Getting down to business

Kiss the area around her vagina. Listen for feedback such as moans or heavy breathing while using your tongue in different ways; circle around the lips, focus on the clit, use your whole tongue in a softer way and use just the tip to make the pressure harder.

Try using a finger inside her while kissing, sucking and softly biting her. If she is into that try using two. You can also use one finger to carefully rub around her anus.

Good sex is built on good communication, so ask her if it feels nice. Tell her to let you know if she wants it harder, softer, faster or slower. Most women who are used to touching themselves have their own rhythm they follow when doing this and it’s up to her to teach you by showing or telling you how she likes it.

The G-spot

This great area of pleasure can be found if your lady is aroused, it can be described as a spongy area at the roof of her vagina. Slide your fingers up until your second knuckle. Circle your fingers around it, or make “come here” type gestures with them. Start out slowly and then move your fingers faster. A G-spot orgasm is different from a clitoral one, and not every woman is able to get them both. However, it can still feel amazing! Remember, you want to start slowly and then move faster

Bringing her to climax

Most women I’ve talked to prefer a consistent rhythm when it’s time to reach the big O. And clitoral stimulation. Find out how she likes it. And don’t go for it too soon too hard. For a lot of ladies, their clitoris is so sensitive that it’s better to stimulate the area around it, just softly touching it with your tongue, whilst others prefer hard stimulation. Ask her, or simply try it and read her response. Most women need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm. Remember this when having penetration sex too; if you’re in a position where you can touch her, do so. Or tell her to touch herself. Seeing it, or just knowing it can be a huge turn on for you also. And mix it up with textures! Using your fingers and tongue is great. Why not include toys as well? This stimulates more nerve endings making an orgasm more likely. Enjoy!